Posted this on my Facebook blog page:
In a perhaps misguided attempt to alleviate some of the guilt I feel for not responding to the *dozens* of emails and Facebook messages I’ve received over the past year, I’m opening my Tumblr ask box (since that seems the easiest way to work things) to questions about unschooling tonight. If you’re curious about something, ask away and I will provide a short response!
Don’t know if anyone will take me up on it, but since I felt like I was up for that tonight, figured I’d let people know. *Shrugs*
The problem with school is that it’s forced.
I’m thirsty for knowledge when I have the freedom to seek it myself.
(Source: cerebral-madness, via musings-of-terra)
So if anyone has any specific questions, ask away!!
(Anon is on)
Shared on my Facebook blog page, now shared here:
I’m really bothered by how often I see homeschoolers and unschoolers speaking about schooled people with real nastiness: mocking cashiers who aren’t good at math, and people applying for jobs who aren’t good at writing their applications. That’s not okay. And if we really cared about every individuals strengths, and really practised what we preached about different people having different skills that are all valuable, different strengths and weaknesses, then we’d stop doing that. Please do stop.
awesomemodon:
radicallane:
I was at a fundraising party tonight for this awesome art and community space that I cook for, and this one guest got into a discussion about unschooling with a couple of unschooling parents (my own mom included) I was sitting with. And upon finding out I’d never gone to school, she literally turned to me and asked me a quiz math question. Seriously? Good job at those social skills you also claim I lack…
People did that a fair bit to me while I was growing up, and it’s ALWAYS ridiculously rude and condescending. But I guess I’m surprised how anyone could possibly justify doing something so inappropriate and rude to me as an adult. No worse, but definitely more surprising.
Luckily, my evening overall was really nice, so many great people I know were there. But yeah, that was an unexpected and unpleasant little event to mar it.
UGH UGH UGH. I had people do that to me as bullying when I was put around “normal” kids. Like, they would follow me and endlessly quiz me on every subject under the sun and when I messed up (especially if I messed up on a pop culture thing) they’d take that as a sure sign of my inferiority as a human being - even if I’d answered the thousand questions before that correctly. They’d all have a good laugh and then resume hounding me.
Someone doing that to me now would probably leave me flustered, massively upset, possibly triggered and almost 100% sure to get the question wrong. I’m starting to tear up just thinking about it.
What is a good witty response to someone doing this? I need to have one pre-programmed so I can just drop it without missing a beat when/if this happens in the future.
That’s awful, I’m so sorry you dealt with that! :( You know, I’ve gotten that a couple of times in my life from kids, but overwhelmingly the folks who attempt to quiz me have been adults.
I get that, when the person did that tonight my heart rate instantly sped up and I felt a bit shaky. But, I had a response prepared! That does definitely help. I took a page from my sister’s book, who’s recently handled a quiz question from someone by saying something along the lines of “I don’t think that’s how you usually introduce yourself to folks you’ve just met.” and I said (which is true, I just don’t usually say it to the quizzers) that I decided years ago to not answer questions when people attempt to quiz me, because it’s a rude thing to do. And though the quizzy person continued to be hostile, she stopped trying to quiz me after that.
So yeah, if it’s something you could feel comfortable doing, i do think calling people out on their shit is the best strategy. Between my sis and I, we’ve gotten reactions ranging from embarrassment/chagrin at the best, to just an end to the questions at the worst. So it does seem to work pretty well!
Best of luck in finding a way that feels good to you of handling that quizzing and hostile questions shit. ♥
I was at a fundraising party tonight for this awesome art and community space that I cook for, and this one guest got into a discussion about unschooling with a couple of unschooling parents (my own mom included) I was sitting with. And upon finding out I’d never gone to school, she literally turned to me and asked me a quiz math question. Seriously? Good job at those social skills you also claim I lack…
People did that a fair bit to me while I was growing up, and it’s ALWAYS ridiculously rude and condescending. But I guess I’m surprised how anyone could possibly justify doing something so inappropriate and rude to me as an adult. No worse, but definitely more surprising.
Luckily, my evening overall was really nice, so many great people I know were there. But yeah, that was an unexpected and unpleasant little event to mar it.