Posted this on my Facebook blog page:

In a perhaps misguided attempt to alleviate some of the guilt I feel for not responding to the *dozens* of emails and Facebook messages I’ve received over the past year, I’m opening my Tumblr ask box (since that seems the easiest way to work things) to questions about unschooling tonight. If you’re curious about something, ask away and I will provide a short response!

Don’t know if anyone will take me up on it, but since I felt like I was up for that tonight, figured I’d let people know. *Shrugs*

New post on the blog. 

Learning is something very personal and very individual, so having found myself being asked for generalized learning advice, I find myself both eager to share but hesitant about what to share!

So I’ll simply do what I always strive to do: write from personal experiences. Share what I’ve found to be important in my own learning and in my own life, and hope that others can find it relatable or otherwise helpful. Much of this seems really obvious, yet at the same time I’ve never actually sat down and attempted to list all the things I find most important in my own learning, and seeing it all laid out like this is proving really interesting and revealing to me…

Be comfortable learning just enough and nothing more

Read the Wikipedia article, and if you’re satisfied with that, stop. Go by your interest level, and don’t feel an obligation to learn a lot about a subject if you’re not interested in doing so.

Be comfortable focusing on one subject to the exclusion of (almost) all else

Sometimes digging deep and truly immersing yourself in something can be a wonderfully rewarding experience, and leaves you with a very deep knowledge of something or a high level of skill. If something seems wonderful enough to you to do that, go for it.

Learn alone

Books are great. So is the internet. So are solitary walks in the woods.

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Seek out groups, teachers, or mentors to learn

Sometimes learning with other people really feels best (for some people often, others, rarely). Whether it’s in a group where big interesting discussions can happen, or finding a teacher who can help you gain the level of skill you want to have, learning with other people can be wonderful. There’s nothing that says just because you’re a self-directed learner you can’t direct yourself towards lots of other people!

Don’t force it

If you find yourself reading the same paragraph half a dozen times because you’re just not taking it in, stop. Put the book down. Maybe permanently, maybe just until the next day if it seems interesting again then. But I do find, in my experience at least, that anything I’ve ever had to choke down or really force myself through, I’ve forgotten. Every single time. That doesn’t mean you might not want to force yourself through a boring chapter in an otherwise interesting book on occasion, or get through a not-so-interesting article online because it’s the only place you’ve found to get that specific information you want. Just that if you’re really not enjoying something and there’s nothing forcing you to do it (as in, you’re not studying for a test you really want to pass), then give up. If you’re not enjoying it and not taking it in, what’s the point?

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The problem with school is that it’s forced.

I’m thirsty for knowledge when I have the freedom to seek it myself.

(Source: cerebral-madness, via musings-of-terra)

I feel like talking about unschooling today

So if anyone has any specific questions, ask away!!

(Anon is on)

Shared on my Facebook blog page, now shared here:

I’m really bothered by how often I see homeschoolers and unschoolers speaking about schooled people with real nastiness: mocking cashiers who aren’t good at math, and people applying for jobs who aren’t good at writing their applications. That’s not okay. And if we really cared about every individuals strengths, and really practised what we preached about different people having different skills that are all valuable, different strengths and weaknesses, then we’d stop doing that. Please do stop.

Originally written on tumblr, I cleaned this up and it’s now a post on Cooperative Catalyst.

I’ve been asked some variation on “are you going to college?” more times than I can count, and I don’t generally give a more elaborate answer than “no.” Occasionally, when pressed, I say that what I want to be doing (cooking!) doesn’t require a degree. Or that I’m doing more interesting things (to me) than going to school. But when I was asked that question online recently, I finally wrote a response that explains in more detail why I’m not going to university*, and that response has been re-worked into this post.

So, am I ever going to go to university?

I don’t like to say never, because lots of things change, but I definitely can’t see myself going to university full time or for a degree in the foreseeable future. I’m sort of vaguely considering just taking a class or two sometime in the next year, or maybe, possibly, going to culinary school at some point, but I haven’t really made any decisions on either of those possibilities yet.

Why don’t I want to go?

As for why I don’t plan on going to university fulltime, I have many reasons. A list of bullet-point reasons, even.

  • There is nothing I want to be doing right now as a job or “career” or whatever that would require a degree, so the only reason (and this is a good reason to go to university for many people!) would be for pure enjoyment/learning purposes, which leads me to…
  • I’m not very into more academic subjects, as a rule. Most of the things I enjoy doing tend to be really tactile and immediate. I like cooking and gardening and having one-on-one conversations. Sure, I like reading about feminism and social justice and radical education. Hell, a major focus of my life for a few years was reading and talking and writing about unschooling! But I sort of feel that what I really want and need to be doing in my life right now is just that: doing, not studying.
  • I don’t enjoy learning-for-the-sake-of-learning (and having said that I swear I can almost hear a horrified gasp from lots of people in my unschooling community). For me to enjoy and take in information or learn a skill well, it has to feel genuinely important and relevant in my life and/or the lives of the people close to me, my community, etc. I’m very happily reading through a large book on fermentation (Sandor Ellix Katz is awesome) because I want to be fermenting more foods and beverages. I’m going to pick up a really awesome looking book (The Forager’s Harvest by Samuel Thayer) on wild edibles soon, because I want to be foraging a lot more with my sister come spring. Social justice issues, radical politics, and radical sustainability are important because I want to be a good person, act in as kind and non-oppressive a way as possible, live in a genuinely sustainable way, etc. University has always seemed to me to be so incredibly removed from the rest of the world, and I really don’t want that, or think that that removal is generally a healthy thing.
  • I hate how inaccessible academia is. Both the price, though that is at least less of an issue where I am than many other places**, but also the very language and culture of universities and academia. Though I’ve seen and been bothered by this on multiple occasions, a specific instance that stands out to me was one time when I was at a talk, and this one dude just started bringing up objections and questions in the most ridiculously academic language you can imagine, and referencing books and authors I’d never heard of. As the conversation between the speaker (an academic herself) and the audience member continued, I had absolutely no clue what they were talking about. And I say this as someone who is generally read as well educated (by people unaware of my being an unschooler, since then of course folks start to think otherwise), a native English speaker, and someone usually considered skilled with words. It just hit me very profoundly that if this seemed inaccessible to me, how much more inaccessible is it to so very many other people? It just doesn’t sit right with me.
  • Also, when I think of being in classrooms for some four years or more, I feel like I’d be trapped. I’m literally mildly horrified at the idea. It does not sound appealing at all.

There are more personal reasons, and there are far more nuanced critiques of the institution of university to be found out there. But from my perspective, those things are a very good overview of why I have no plans or desire to go to university.

Really, there are so many more interesting (to me) things I want to be doing right now in my life, things that are relevant and exciting and hands-on. No classrooms needed.

*I say university not “college” because here in Quebec, college (also known as CEGEP) is a between high school and university thing, and is not synonymous with university.

**In Quebec the average tuition per year is $2,519 (source: http://www.statcan.gc.ca/tables-tableaux/sum-som/l01/cst01/educ50f-eng.htm)

A new post! On my unschooling blog! For the first time in ages! I am happy.

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I was at a fundraising party tonight for this awesome art and community space that I cook for, and this one guest got into a discussion about unschooling with a couple of unschooling parents (my own mom included) I was sitting with. And upon finding out I’d never gone to school, she literally turned to me and asked me a quiz math question. Seriously? Good job at those social skills you also claim I lack…

People did that a fair bit to me while I was growing up, and it’s ALWAYS ridiculously rude and condescending. But I guess I’m surprised how anyone could possibly justify doing something so inappropriate and rude to me as an adult. No worse, but definitely more surprising.

Luckily, my evening overall was really nice, so many great people I know were there. But yeah, that was an unexpected and unpleasant little event to mar it.

UGH UGH UGH. I had people do that to me as bullying when I was put around “normal” kids. Like, they would follow me and endlessly quiz me on every subject under the sun and when I messed up (especially if I messed up on a pop culture thing) they’d take that as a sure sign of my inferiority as a human being - even if I’d answered the thousand questions before that correctly. They’d all have a good laugh and then resume hounding me.

Someone doing that to me now would probably leave me flustered, massively upset, possibly triggered and almost 100% sure to get the question wrong. I’m starting to tear up just thinking about it.

What is a good witty response to someone doing this? I need to have one pre-programmed so I can just drop it without missing a beat when/if this happens in the future.

That’s awful, I’m so sorry you dealt with that! :( You know, I’ve gotten that a couple of times in my life from kids, but overwhelmingly the folks who attempt to quiz me have been adults.

I get that, when the person did that tonight my heart rate instantly sped up and I felt a bit shaky. But, I had a response prepared! That does definitely help. I took a page from my sister’s book, who’s recently handled a quiz question from someone by saying something along the lines of “I don’t think that’s how you usually introduce yourself to folks you’ve just met.” and I said (which is true, I just don’t usually say it to the quizzers) that I decided years ago to not answer questions when people attempt to quiz me, because it’s a rude thing to do. And though the quizzy person continued to be hostile, she stopped trying to quiz me after that.

So yeah, if it’s something you could feel comfortable doing, i do think calling people out on their shit is the best strategy. Between my sis and I, we’ve gotten reactions ranging from embarrassment/chagrin at the best, to just an end to the questions at the worst. So it does seem to work pretty well!

Best of luck in finding a way that feels good to you of handling that quizzing and hostile questions shit. ♥

I was at a fundraising party tonight for this awesome art and community space that I cook for, and this one guest got into a discussion about unschooling with a couple of unschooling parents (my own mom included) I was sitting with. And upon finding out I’d never gone to school, she literally turned to me and asked me a quiz math question. Seriously? Good job at those social skills you also claim I lack…

People did that a fair bit to me while I was growing up, and it’s ALWAYS ridiculously rude and condescending. But I guess I’m surprised how anyone could possibly justify doing something so inappropriate and rude to me as an adult. No worse, but definitely more surprising.

Luckily, my evening overall was really nice, so many great people I know were there. But yeah, that was an unexpected and unpleasant little event to mar it.